Lubricant and the use of lubricants has come a long way but there are still some mistakes we are all making. Here's 4 common ones:
1. Not Asking For It
There is still a stigma about using lube. If you’re not wet enough, it must mean you’re not turned on. Even though your brain and body tell you otherwise! Girls ask for the lube, you'll be glad you did.
2. One Lube Is Good For Everything
We are all having sex in lots of different ways! We are touching, licking, stroking, inserting and massaging each other in countless different ways, and no one lube is going to fulfill all of your needs.
There are a few main types and all have advantages and disadvantages, depending on what you want to use them for.
Water-based lubricants, (like Wicked Aqua), are very versatile. They can be used in any kind of sexual play. They feel silky smooth on the skin and are super easy to clean up. They are also safe to use with latex condoms.
But water-based lubricants do have a tendency to dry out during longer sessions and will immediately wash off if used for shower sex.
Silicone-based lubricants, (like Wicked Ultra), are more concentrated and long-lasting, often requiring just a few drops. They can be used with latex condoms. Work well in water and are most often used for anal sex.
Silicone-based lubricants, however, cannot be used with silicone sex toys, as they will wreck the silicone in the toy.
Silicone-based lubricants can also be a little more messy to clean up.
These are just the basics, you will find a much wider variety of specialty lubes also available. If you’d like to mix things up a bit, you can also find hybrid lubes, lube for sensitive skin, flavoured lubes and many more.
3. All Lube Is Created Equal
While we have discovered that adding lube to play is a great idea. We do need to remember that we are talking about putting substances on and in our bodies, and that means we should be aware of the ingredients in our lubricants.
Here’s a couple of potentially problematic lube ingredients:
Glycerin: can cause an overabundance of yeast and yeast infections.
Parabens: A preservative that may affect people’s hormones and may cause fertility issues and increase the chance of developing breast cancer.
Chlorhexidine gluconate: A disinfectant chemical that can kill off lactobacillus, a good vaginal bacteria.
Nonoxynol-9: A spermicide that can also eliminate good and bad bacteria in the vagina, throwing off your natural balance and potentially causing infections.
Read labels and doing your research and take not of any reactions you have to certain products.
4. Lube Always Feels Good
No, no it doesn’t. Warm that stuff up before you put it on your partner’s sexy bits! Don’t just grab it from the drawer and smear it on. Tuck the bottle somewhere warm for a while first before applying, your partner will thank you.